How to write your wedding vows

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You’ve found your perfect match, your soulmate, your one and only. You’re getting married! The invites have gone out, the venue’s and marriage celebrant been booked, and your most glamourous glad rags are ready. All that’s left to do is write your vows. ‘No problem!’, you think. You’re in LOVE – writing your vows should be a cinch, right?!

Aaaaaand, cue: writer’s block.

As a Byron Bay celebrant, I know that writing your vows can seem like an overwhelming task. It might seem daunting to find the perfect words. But can I let you in on a little secret? I’ve heard a few wedding vows in my time, and the magic of this moment isn’t about being perfect – it’s about being authentic. That’s what will come across to your partner, family and friends.

And yet still, when it comes time to writing wedding vows, some loved-up lads and lasses freak out and think they have nothing to say. You’re not alone – so let’s break this down and get those vows flowing.

I suggest to take a deep breath and set aside what you imagine others may think. This is about you and your partner, so focus on what you love about the person who you’re about to marry.

The truth is, most of your guests won’t remember exactly what you say. However, they’ll remember how the moment felt. So allow yourself be honest and sincere.

What are vows anyway?

At the essence, a vow is a promise. Tell your partner what you promise to them, and who you’ll be in the relationship. This can include your hopes and dreams.

Think about the memories you’ve created with your partner so far. What have you done that’s special? What have you created? How have you changed or grown as a person since your partner has come into your life? What qualities does your partner bring out in you, and what qualities do you see in them? Acknowledge your journey together, and your growth as a person as well.

You may like to tell a story of the past, present and future of your relationship. End your story with what you promise to be or offer in the relationship. Keep your vows honest and real.

Your vows can be as serious or as light and humorous as you like. If you choose to go down the funny path always finish on sincerity. That’s where the magic is!

Lastly, don’t jump on the Internet looking for inspiration or trying to compare your vows to someone else’s. If you’re really stuck, you can always reach out to your marriage celebrant (yours truly?) who will guide you in the right direction. But remember, your relationship is unique and special, so your vows will be, too. You love this person, so trust that you have what it takes to write the perfect vows.